Are You Prioritizing Your Marriage? 

by | Oct 2, 2023 | Family

It’s easy to get caught up in life, kids, events, and so on. When is life NOT busy, right? There will always be something to distract us and take our attention away from our spouse. So, in the midst of the craziness, how are you prioritizing your marriage? Or is it potentially (and unintentionally) being placed on the back burner? 

Just like success in any area of life, marriage requires hard work, focus, and dedication. Let’s talk about five ways to prioritize your marriage! 

Five Keys to Prioritizing Your Marriage 

If you’re not prioritizing your marriage, it will inevitably move backward. Over the years, we’ve discovered a few habits that have helped us keep our marriage at the center. These aren’t practices we do every once in a while—these are daily commitments! 

Have Fun Together 

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The first item on our list is to have fun and to regularly date your spouse! This doesn’t have to be an extravagant date night out. Sometimes, our favorite “dates” have been simply hanging out at home after the kids are in bed! Bake some sweet snacks after dinner, pop some popcorn and watch a movie, play board or card games, or just sit and talk! Here’s a list of 50 at-home date night ideas to check out! 

Date nights aren’t the only way to have fun together. Remember to be silly! When we aren’t together, we are constantly texting each other fun GIFs and inside jokes. Find ways to laugh together and enjoy each other’s company. 

Dream Together 

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Prioritizing your marriage by dreaming together is pure magic! Listening to your spouse’s dreams and aspirations is always so inspiring. We always learn something new about each other when we talk about our future together and with our family.  

So be sure to connect with each other about your dreams and to act on making them a reality together. Create a dream board and wholeheartedly support each other on the journey. 

Give Each Other Generous Assumptions 

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This is one of our favorite marriage tips to give, so it definitely makes it onto our list today. DON’T ASSUME THE WORST! But rather, assume that your spouse is FOR YOU and that their intentions are good.  

And if you’re finding yourselves missing the mark with this, well, it leads us to our next two keys to prioritizing your marriage—communication. 

Get on the Same Page 

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Are you on the same page as your spouse? We started a practice in our marriage that we call “Daily Talk.” We know … creative and inspired name, right? 😉 Our “Daily Talk” is exactly what it sounds like. We make sure that we take the time to connect with each other for 10-15 minutes every single day to be sure that we’re on the same ball field.  

Whether it’s looking at our calendars, talking about parenting together, or just checking in to see how we’re doing emotionally, this “Daily Talk” has made a world of difference in our marriage. 

Adjust and Adapt 

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Communication, communication, and more communication. We honestly can’t say it enough. If you begin implementing a “Daily Talk” into your marriage, you’re on the right track! But how we communicate with each other is also very important.  

We’ve learned, over the years, that adjusting and adapting is a crucial aspect of communication. Your spouse may receive words and body language differently than you do, and it’s important that we identify each other’s communication style. Remember our “give generous assumptions” tip? That’s going to come in handy here. 

We learned how to not talk at each other but to talk with each other. Make your spouse feel heard, seen, and valued by being an active listener

Be Willing to Do the Work! 

As we’ve mentioned, prioritizing your marriage takes work! Be willing to put it at the forefront, and you’ll be surprised how so much of life falls into place when your marriage is treated like the treasure it truly is! 

Marriage is just one aspect of life though, right? Head to our blog, “Three Secrets to Success in ALL Areas of Life,” to go above and beyond!